Lana, a 38 year-old publicist in Los Angeles, was diagnosed with genital herpes in 1997.Since then, she has "kind of been hiding" from the dating scene.Let's face it: How do you drop that bomb on a potential love interest? She considered a number of online dating venues, but she says asked too many questions on its enrollment form, e Harmony was too "religious," and My Space was too much of a "hookup zone." "I wanted to meet men with my same diagnosis so we wouldnt [need to] have 'the talk,' or fear of rejection and transmitting," she says.
All of these can make datingoften an ego-shattering minefield for those in perfect healtheven trickier."On bigger dating sites the competition is tremendous," says Jim Houran, Ph D, a clinical psychologist and columnist for Online Dating Magazine.
"And lets face it, depending on what [the illness] is, it could very well make you uncompetitive in the larger dating pool."Fortunately, there are a number of alternatives.
A new breed of dating site has emerged to play cupid for people with chronic diseases and disabilities.
Over the past five years, several sitessuch as Prescription4love.com, Nolongerlonely.com, and Cisforcupid.comhave launched to serve the needs of people with conditions ranging from bipolar disorder to Crohn's disease.
Together these sites now boast tens of thousands of members.